tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post1709188974640785906..comments2023-08-17T21:16:22.761+10:00Comments on Life In A Pink Fibro: Building resilience (in plants and kids)allison taithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00762529258195877400noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-54042468797327766852010-09-29T11:34:12.394+10:002010-09-29T11:34:12.394+10:00Great post!
I was thinking about this yesterday. ...Great post! <br />I was thinking about this yesterday. <br />For various reasons, I could see myself turning into one of those Crazy Lady mothers whose kids never leave the house. There is so much that could happen out there in the Big Bad World, and I'm sure I have imagined just about every possible scenario.<br />But I follow Hubbys' lead, and let them go do what kids do. We watch carefully, but from a little distance. <br />And all we can do is hope that the kids turn out OK.Tonihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16561240096806868742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-76987186724043184662010-09-28T17:22:18.327+10:002010-09-28T17:22:18.327+10:00He's proabably worried that you're worried...He's proabably worried that you're worried that he's worried...<br /><br />Best just to stop worrying. The kids are alright. xMaxabellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15761220164069379437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-51365123605541653232010-09-28T14:29:45.615+10:002010-09-28T14:29:45.615+10:00I loved this post. You sound like me, your husban...I loved this post. You sound like me, your husband sounds like mine, and you have also explained the problem we're having with our cauliflowers, too. Can't wait to rip them out!<br /><br />I am conscious of helicopter parenting and do like the concept of 'free range' parents. Whether I can be one or not...I'm working on it. If I can find a balance between the two, I'll be happy!Melbourne Mummahttp://melbournemumma.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-1103350006827739502010-09-28T13:49:35.119+10:002010-09-28T13:49:35.119+10:00Another overthinker here! *raises hand*
Same deal ...Another overthinker here! *raises hand*<br />Same deal too, partner very laid back, relaxed, but still manages to be a great Dad. Maybe we need to take a few parenting tips from our other half once in a while? I've sure spent a lot of time trying to convince him how much there is to worry about having a daughter not even 12 months old yet! Bless him though, he listens and then says "But she has you as her Mum, what could there posibly be to worry about?" xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-50544000829922419282010-09-28T13:48:26.616+10:002010-09-28T13:48:26.616+10:00As long as you don't prune the kids or rip the...As long as you don't prune the kids or rip their roots out of their favourite location without warning, I reckon they'll be fine. If you are worried that you worry too much, doesn't that mean that you'll never really be worrying too much because you're aware of not doing it - does that even make sense? <br /><br />But I do agree that letting kids solve their own problems once we've given them a framework and safety - is a very good thing. I especially think this is important in the playground when many of us are tempted to step in and talk to another parent or a teacher before we've helped our children work through a process of solving it one on one with another child.<br /><br />I mulched the garden today with Mr 8 so that I don't need to water it too often. If you want to go crazy with the analogies - mulching is a bit like all the advice-giving and modeling we do with our kids so that they can look after themselves eventually as resilient, blooming seedlings - sorry, I'm, not a poet so I will stop right here. Lovely post Allison.Yvette Vignandohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02278850983558455546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-26907275974789979442010-09-28T12:22:54.852+10:002010-09-28T12:22:54.852+10:00OH here here, my children are planting our Spring ...OH here here, my children are planting our Spring herbs right now, easy school holiday activity. They play in the dirt bare foot (& wash as they are part princess) & i always say "i'd rather you make a not-so-great decision, than no decision at all". This way they can learn, have ownership, solve problems & grow mentally!! S<br />o far they have no had one sick day in years - not a cough or runny nose, nothing. Can i mention we live in freezing Canberra?? It's all about healthy living & fun. All 4 have great friends at school & have never been bullied - i'm pertty thrilled they are resiliant. I think i've set them up well for high school, which is about to happen!! Love Posieposie blogs Jennie McClellandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07422068499429667636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-11061384754485764042010-09-28T11:25:38.338+10:002010-09-28T11:25:38.338+10:00Finding balance. The Buddhists call it The Middle ...Finding balance. The Buddhists call it The Middle Path. I know I have said it before, but another dose of Sarah Napthali may be in order. Her book on School-aged children would be perfect for you right now!<br /><br />I like watching my children solve problems on their own (although it can be excruiatingly frustrating too!), but like you I do have a tendency to worry about them too. <br /><br />You have some great 'free range parent' models in your new home. Maybe they will help you find the Middle Path.MultipleMumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00621170366257326241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-7842697060009463392010-09-28T10:24:54.201+10:002010-09-28T10:24:54.201+10:00Sometimes if you just build the perimeter for prot...Sometimes if you just build the perimeter for protection and allow a "safe" free range environment the new growth flourishes and amazes with its beauty. Oh the possibilities are breathtaking.Curvaceous Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16051598510590214071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-19547167572405501182010-09-28T09:35:17.293+10:002010-09-28T09:35:17.293+10:00Hmm but this is where the part of me says "th...Hmm but this is where the part of me says "the world today isn't like it was when i was a child". And it isn't. <br />The creeps and weirdo's out there are more daring and dangerous. Children are getting kidnapped from their front yards, and from school etc. So could i peacefully let my child play down the street? No. <br /><br />However, i am actually pretty ok at sitting back and watching my children do what they must. Especially at home, if i hear crying from out the back i don't go running, i stroll to the window, are both kids moving? Yes. Can i see any blood? No. It's all good then, they will come to me if they need me. <br />I want them to know i'm here, but i want them to put into practice all the good stuff i've spent years teaching them.<br />When we are out i try to hang back, unless they are destroying someone's property or hurting someone else, or you know forgoing those good manners they seem to embrace at home but in public forget entirely, then i will have a quiet chat to them. <br /><br />Of course, this all mostly applies to Master B as Master D is only 18months! lol.<br />Most effective parenting tool i have found? Setting the example. Be who you want your children to be. And remind them that helping others just because it's nice is the way to go, because then they will remember it and want to help you when you need it.Miss Pinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04339773113889860348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-55174004551681654412010-09-28T07:59:34.735+10:002010-09-28T07:59:34.735+10:00I love that analogy. I started my parenting life ...I love that analogy. I started my parenting life as a hoverer, worrier, somewhat helicopter type, but as my marriage dissolved and I had to put myself first for a while my parenting style changed. In hindsight I wish I found that perfect spot in the middle because I may have gone a little bit too hands off at times. It is really hard to find that balance. Given what they have been through I am guessing they have learnt resilience, I can see at times they are as robust as Patterson's Curse, but at other times they are like Tulips and require some very gentle care. My word verification is "Mintsma" - how apt. Mint grows like wildfire and can handle neglect hardy if the conditions are right, but wrong conditions and the mint becomes weak and will die without attention ... maybe MINT is the analogy for my boys?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-40947478602293412202010-09-28T07:52:46.790+10:002010-09-28T07:52:46.790+10:00Oh Al, this is a lovely post that resonates with m...Oh Al, this is a lovely post that resonates with me.<br /><br />I am a worrier who has to reign in the desire to have my garden and my littlies "perfect".<br /><br />Lovely husband is a laid back optimist whose instinct is to have a happy heathly garden of plants and kids who are comfortable and blooming in their environment.<br /><br />I suspect (hope?) that these children, and these gardens, benefit hugely from the combination of traits and skills we offer......Diminishing Lucyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02072304081006798910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-53836832692701397152010-09-28T07:51:06.352+10:002010-09-28T07:51:06.352+10:00We obviously think about similar things when garde...We obviously think about similar things when gardening :) I often think about weeds too. And Parenting. I agree with the adversity bit. I'm a worrier too,on the parenting front.Thankfully Mr is more laid back.I don't think I'm a Copter parent though. But I know a few : ) Fab post (as ever) : )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-43023308017925613302010-09-28T07:33:00.577+10:002010-09-28T07:33:00.577+10:00Oh how I wish could be more of a 'free range p...Oh how I wish could be more of a 'free range parent'.. I hover and worry... I hope that I am still breeding resilience though. Great post. Great. A-M xxThe House That A-M Builthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17870752194541203656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-16677551504379630222010-09-28T06:00:36.724+10:002010-09-28T06:00:36.724+10:00What a lovely garden you're going to have! Enj...What a lovely garden you're going to have! Enjoy a beautiful day, Kellie xxKellie Collishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05189277557491769994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-34385581633207915102010-09-28T03:50:33.137+10:002010-09-28T03:50:33.137+10:00I'm a worrier like you! And I fight the urge t...I'm a worrier like you! And I fight the urge to hover and protect at all times. My partner is also far more relaxed, taking Miss2 to galleries, museums and parties and because he doesn't overthink it and plan for the worst, he often gets the best! Plus, his herb garden is booming :)MsKymOGhttp://www.mothersintuition.com.aunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-91109415411330698052010-09-28T01:42:31.148+10:002010-09-28T01:42:31.148+10:00There is strength in adversity, yes. It's an ...There is strength in adversity, yes. It's an eloquent argument and I've heard it and it makes sense. <br /><br />But who would pull the weeds, if not for us mothers? If we did not keep them in check, would they not grow up and strangle the tender young plants we have worked hard to nurture? If we were not meant to tend our gardens, I have to wonder why so many of us were born with green thumbs.Wanderlusthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12099758957492165428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-66459426287109918652010-09-28T00:39:24.169+10:002010-09-28T00:39:24.169+10:00They say that a weed is really just a plant that i...They say that a weed is really just a plant that is growing where you don't want it to be, thereby making it a weed. <br />Now I'm trying to relate that to parenting but am only coming up with thoughts of spraying the kids with Zero when they annoy me....CATE https://www.blogger.com/profile/05302489120654085490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-12010783701124501042010-09-27T23:21:54.701+10:002010-09-27T23:21:54.701+10:00Good advice there from Andrew Fuller and one that ...Good advice there from Andrew Fuller and one that I would do well to take heed of.<br /><br />We were sat in a pizza parlour the other day where they give the kids little books to colour and fill in quizzes and one of the questions was 'Would you rather be an adult or a child?'. And my son wrote 'A child. Because you don't have to worry about anything.' I thought that that was as it should be.<br /><br />It's a hard balance between the helicopter parenting and the laissez faire but I think we're all trying to find the middle way.<br /><br />Happy weeding.Deer Babyhttp://deerbaby.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com