tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post5489986422915302268..comments2023-08-17T21:16:22.761+10:00Comments on Life In A Pink Fibro: Modern dilemma: Did I do the wrong thing?allison taithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00762529258195877400noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-90634123118003614312012-02-14T21:00:04.523+11:002012-02-14T21:00:04.523+11:00Oh the phone, the phone! Never leave home without ...Oh the phone, the phone! Never leave home without it! I probably would've asked where his house was, driven there without the kid and talked to the adults about the situation. That's the thing, I don't want my daughter in some stranger's car but I also don't want her to stay in the bus stop for ages on her own. Crap. I'm hiring a security guard when she's older.<br /><br />Pretty new look!!Kristynhttp://mummyk.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-11107996453127054402012-02-10T13:13:45.145+11:002012-02-10T13:13:45.145+11:00The blog looks great.
As for the dilemma - you de...The blog looks great. <br />As for the dilemma - you definitely couldn't offer him a lift & doesn't it make your realise how dependent on our mobiles we have become? It also shows how teaching your kids some coping strategies so if they're in this kind of situation they can perhaps have a fall back position. If the bus doesn't come/is late, these are your options. I might have said something to the police - but who knows, it's easy sitting here at my desk thinking about it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-70717216904107872172012-02-10T13:06:04.268+11:002012-02-10T13:06:04.268+11:00Look at you Al, you look so fancy! LOVE it! xxLook at you Al, you look so fancy! LOVE it! xxDiminishing Lucyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02072304081006798910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-37082249860173381412012-02-10T12:27:10.502+11:002012-02-10T12:27:10.502+11:00Bet you're still stressing about this! I am! ...Bet you're still stressing about this! I am! I think you did good, I wouldn't have offered a lift, I would have maybe popped past the police and trying to ignore they were busy, may have explained the situation and asked them to go back with a phone to call the mum. I have an 11 year old boy who is starting to experience a little "controlled" freedom. I feel sick in my stomach about your experience, or what would have been the right thing to do. Sick. Offering a ride would have been the worst thing. He might have had a nice experience with you so may not have hesitated in the next situation where it might not have been so nice. Sad that things aren't like what they were in "our time" but that's our reality, we have to work within it, and offering a lift to a strange child is way outside acceptable parameters these days. You did the right thing.Lisa Schofieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09098082575435441127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-45453233356844160212012-02-10T11:47:58.508+11:002012-02-10T11:47:58.508+11:00Wow that little boy is me! though obviously i was ...Wow that little boy is me! though obviously i was a little girl. a nice lady offered me a lift and i accepted it. i survived but got in a lot of trouble. <br /><br />I just blogged about it. <br /><br />accidentallentil.blogspot.comAccidental Lentil...https://www.blogger.com/profile/13239554001748595807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-50707673950688532672012-02-10T06:37:05.587+11:002012-02-10T06:37:05.587+11:00Remember when w could leave the house when we were...Remember when w could leave the house when we were kids and play in the bush or down the river until sundown? Remember when we could walk to school without a policeman giving our mum a good talking to? I miss that era of care freeness. I know evil existed back then but now we are so busy thinking about what could happen we never relax. A sad but true indictment on our society.Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04426087213110191042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-55028846713927126322012-02-10T06:29:58.374+11:002012-02-10T06:29:58.374+11:00Al, hindsight is such a wonderful thing. I can nev...Al, hindsight is such a wonderful thing. I can never think of all the options at the time, I always think 'I should have done this', 'Why didn't I do that?'. You did the best you could at the time, and the right thing by not taking him. Hard one. Yes.<br /><br />PS Loooving your new bloggy look! :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09651116248452404269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-45029431825636147262012-02-10T01:15:15.607+11:002012-02-10T01:15:15.607+11:00I probably would have offered him a ride and never...I probably would have offered him a ride and never thought twice about bad strangers. (I have a blind spot when it comes to mean people ... I just expect everyone to be nice.) And then I googled Daniel Morcombe and am sick inside. Sometimes, our world is terrible.Staciahttp://myfluffybunnies.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-11283846529939919402012-02-09T22:34:24.861+11:002012-02-09T22:34:24.861+11:00Situations like that are awful as at the time you ...Situations like that are awful as at the time you may not think of the best option, but I think your fixation on not just offering him a ride being a stranger was right on, and the conundrum that put you in fighting against your instinct to just look after him would be enough to send me into a complete state of confusion too! Nicole xNicole@MyIdeaLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01316867202202244162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-56290228178214175252012-02-09T21:43:02.054+11:002012-02-09T21:43:02.054+11:00New header! I like it.
I would have waited with hi...New header! I like it.<br />I would have waited with him a few more minutes, then walked home with him, while mentioning that he should tell his mum the bus is too often late and maybe she should contact the transport authority.Riverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14794655013673748992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-80852134064027039802012-02-09T21:12:42.144+11:002012-02-09T21:12:42.144+11:00I could sit here and tell you what I logically thi...I could sit here and tell you what I logically think I should do in that situation, but since I haven't been there, I have no idea what I would have done. Probably exactly the same as you did, and then worried about it as you are. You couldn't have given him a lift though.<br /><br />The new blog design looks brilliant by the way :-)Tenillehttp://www.myfamilytable.com.aunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-6186581807428804872012-02-09T20:56:48.568+11:002012-02-09T20:56:48.568+11:00Thanks for the feedback on the Fibro renovation. T...Thanks for the feedback on the Fibro renovation. There's still some tweaking to do but I absolutely LOVE it. :-)allison taithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00762529258195877400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-21677259104184458612012-02-09T20:36:21.659+11:002012-02-09T20:36:21.659+11:00Tough call Allison, but I don't think taking a...Tough call Allison, but I don't think taking a kid you don't know in your car is a good idea. So you did the right thing. He could easily have gone into the primary school office himself, or walked home. I think you did more than most people, by stopping and talking to him. I bet he appreciated that anyway. <br /><br />You 'new look' is so fresh! :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-83029500061867059452012-02-09T20:32:59.578+11:002012-02-09T20:32:59.578+11:00Oh my gosh! Firstly, I LOVE, LOOOOOOOVE, LOVE your...Oh my gosh! Firstly, I LOVE, LOOOOOOOVE, LOVE your new bloggy look! It's gorgeous and soooo chic. I'm jealous. Very, very jelous!<br /><br />Now, to the question you asked. That's such a tough one. I don't know how else you could've handled it. In the good old days you would've driven him to school without a blink of an eye. But these days, it's so darn complicated. If I'd had my phone then that would've been the best option, to ring his mum. But it's always the way isn't it? No phone when you need it. Stranger danger is a really tricky one. The fact is that most people who are strangers aren't the purpertrators. It's usually people we know that are the dodgy ones. But on saying that, it does happen that stranger can be dodge too. So hard. Not sure of the answer, Al but you definitely tried to help this boy out in the best way you could. xAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06894025320777652313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-89371546751632315632012-02-09T20:17:08.434+11:002012-02-09T20:17:08.434+11:00Oh Allison, what a situation. I felt every emotion...Oh Allison, what a situation. I felt every emotion you must have been going through. I would have felt the same. My goodness every day life is hard sometimes. All these little scenarios throw themselves at us and you're right, in another time it may have been a different story... or maybe it wouldn't. I recall how extremely protective my parents were of me and they would have flipped if I'd accepted a ride from a stranger. Sad part is, you're not a stranger, you're a lovely, sweet Mama. Such a shame. I'm sure his bus arrived moments after you drove past :o) xo<br />P.S. Loving the look of things around here, what a snazzy, funky makeover for your blog!All For Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13151973819133926868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-71143322879585217252012-02-09T19:31:38.889+11:002012-02-09T19:31:38.889+11:00Your blog looks amazing!!
I would have said "...Your blog looks amazing!!<br /><br />I would have said "I would offer you a ride, but I know you can't get in the car with a stranger. Remember that, don't get in a car with a stranger an then head home if the bus doesn't come."<br /><br />But it sux that you can't be a nice stranger any more. The car makes it impossible. <br /><br />xMaxabellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15761220164069379437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-28259839150795586952012-02-09T19:04:00.020+11:002012-02-09T19:04:00.020+11:00PS: How awesome does your blog look?!?PS: How awesome does your blog look?!?MultipleMumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00621170366257326241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-33265582104032536492012-02-09T19:03:38.460+11:002012-02-09T19:03:38.460+11:00Poor kid. What an awful start to the day for him. ...Poor kid. What an awful start to the day for him. Really I don't think it was your problem to deal with. You can't drive a strange kid to school. Too risky for all. He was a block from home. He needed to go there. Tricky scenario but I wouldn't lose sleep over it. xMultipleMumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00621170366257326241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-65827100281018320182012-02-09T17:10:43.642+11:002012-02-09T17:10:43.642+11:00I agree with you about not wanting to offer him a ...I agree with you about not wanting to offer him a ride. I think I would have sat and waited with him for a bit if I could manage the time, then if after 5 or 10 minutes there was still no bus I would have taken him into the school office to call his parents and see what they would advise, offering, if they were ok with it, to take him to school. <br />While sitting with him and waiting for the bus I may even bring up that I would love to offer him a ride, but that I didn't feel quite right about it as you didn't want him to think it's ok to accept rides from strangers. I'm sure he would have understood that, and you could have reinforced that while you are a nice person not everyone is.Miss Pinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04339773113889860348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-73427958928126920192012-02-09T16:21:14.736+11:002012-02-09T16:21:14.736+11:00Hard to know what to do these days. I think I woul...Hard to know what to do these days. I think I would have tried to call the bus company to find out what was happening and let the boy know or offered my phone for him to call his parents to let them know what was happening. It's difficult to know what to do in situations like this esp when the child is young and as a mum you're torn apart when you think of your own child in a similar situation.Cindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15725008836787686836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-32286879778627059492012-02-09T14:52:00.104+11:002012-02-09T14:52:00.104+11:00So hard a decision. I likely would have stayed wit...So hard a decision. I likely would have stayed with the kid and tried to work out a solution from there. I've been outside school at pickup time no teachers insight, 2 kids left. I didn't know them but my kids did. I didn't know whether to offer to take them home. In the end, I asked them if they'd like us to wait with them and they appeared very grateful. Mum came not too much longer later. <br />Sigh. I don't know. It's just so hard. I'm enough of a country girl that probably tips my thinking.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-66226043067826239412012-02-09T14:45:28.031+11:002012-02-09T14:45:28.031+11:00Hindsight is torturous. Let's just hope that h...Hindsight is torturous. Let's just hope that he arrived at school safely.<br /><br />Sometimes all these modern rules and danger 'awaremess' make it hard for us to do what we would naturally do!<br /><br />Were you far from home? I would have whipped home and gotten my phone, returned to the bus stop to see if he was still there. If not, the bus must have come! If he was still there, then you could have called the bus company to find out when the next bus was (or just gone to their website)!<br /><br />But I have the fortune of hindsight to ponder on this.<br /><br />Don't beat yourself up. xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09345662692259541964noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-33422071468104375222012-02-09T14:34:21.652+11:002012-02-09T14:34:21.652+11:00Very awkward! I'd have had trouble thinking on...Very awkward! I'd have had trouble thinking on the spot as well but think I'd have approached the school inside as well. I had an issue yesterday when a child (under 3) wandered outside our kindy gym by himself. I didnt want to leave him unattended in a car park nor did I want to encourage him to follow a stranger back inside. Thankfully his Mum finally realised he was missing and came bolting out!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06911678503912496884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-78371577082096984222012-02-09T14:32:00.922+11:002012-02-09T14:32:00.922+11:00It's hard to know what I would have done if I&...It's hard to know what I would have done if I'd been in your shoes. I think I would have stayed with him until either the bus arrived or walked him home. But that's easy for me to say now because I'm sitting at home, on my laptop with no time pressures...not in the 'real' situation like you were. Don't beat yourself up. The fact that it's weighing on your mind means you care, and that's what counts.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14668401113519655462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1495198733430494988.post-17922055827638954792012-02-09T14:10:19.894+11:002012-02-09T14:10:19.894+11:00This is such a hard one! You definitely made the r...This is such a hard one! You definitely made the right decision not putting him in your car, do not doubt that. You know you wouldn't want your boys in a stranger's car and neither would this boy's Mum.<br />In hindsight maybe you could have walked him around the corner to his house, or into the school office, but ultimately you did what felt right at the time.Nat - Muddy Farmwifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06161791158132670303noreply@blogger.com