The real practicalities.
I write this as the necessarily-female mother of two boys. If I were the necessarily-male father of two girls I would no doubt have the same problem. Specifically, the whole public toilet thing.
A four-hour jouney on a train, such as we
Mr9 is, in many ways, too old to go to a female toilet. Usually, in quieter, gentler circumstances, I am okay with him taking Mr6 to the men's toilet, while I hover anxiously outside - in the doorway - receiving strange looks from passers-by. They are under strict instructions to scream loudly if anyone so much as looks at them, and conduct their business at nano-warp speed.
Today, we got off at Town Hall station in the city, with Mr6 crab-walking up the stairs because he was busting so much, and me laden down with one large bag and two smaller ones, trying to keep track of the boys, the escalators, the crowds and the everything else. I stopped a station guard-type, in his high-vis vest (thank God for the high-vis) to ask where the toilets were. "Down the end," he said, before adding, ominously I thought, "take them to the Ladies".
Mr9 wasn't happy, but there was no way I was dispatching them alone after that. So we all waited in line, then they waited with all the bags and then we finally managed to get out of there, all swearing we'd never wee again. The only bright spot was that Dyson airblade dryer thingy, which Mr6 took to with gusto.
My point (and I do have one), is that it's bloody difficult travelling with middling-sized children of the opposite sex. Public toilets have taken on 'dens of iniquity' status, whether deserved or not. Accessible toilets are often the best option, but these are locked on stations and other public spaces. And there comes a time when older boys are not happy to be dragged into women's toilets (and women are not altogether happy having them there).
When did it all become so difficult?
So I'm putting it out there. What do you do? Beyond having them cross their legs and hold on as long as they can, how do you manage this situation?
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