During our short walk to the disco, he practised his Gangnam Style moves, hopping and bopping and twirling along beside me. He knows only one line: "Heeeeeey, sexy lady, wah, wah, wah, wah-wah". This he sang over and over again with this kind of thing in between: "bing-bong, ding-dong, can, wokking Gangnam Style". It was all highly entertaining.
As we approached the gate, he turned to me. "What does sexy mean, Mum?" And once again I was caught on the hop, sputtering and spluttering, reaching for an answer to a 'big question'. It's like he plans these things.
"Er, well," I said. "When you get older, MUCH older, you'll like girls, a lot, and, er, when you find a girl you want to kiss you'll, er, probably think that she's, er, sexy."
He laughed. "Girls! Ha! As if, Mum!"
I laughed too. "Well, you will. But that's why it's a grown up word and it's not a good word for little boys to use. It sounds all wrong. See?"
He laughed again. "Kissing! Ha!"
And off he went, 'wah, wah, wah, wah-wah-ing' as he went. Wokking Gangnam style all the way.
Have you had to explain 'sexy' to your kids? What did you say?
That sounds like an excellent definition of sexy.
ReplyDeleteAt our school the kids sing 'chips and gravy!'
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DeleteI like how you did it. Would playing a really bad Melissa Tkautz song count as 'discussing the definition of sexy'?
ReplyDeleteI had a similar moment a few years back when I heard my twins calling each other sexy.... I asked them what they thought it meant and they both said 'cool'.
ReplyDeleteI wavered for a moment and then said 'well technically it means that you want have sex with someone, as in make a baby, because you think they are sexy'.... they both looked at me in disgust and said "oh no Mum it doesn't mean that at all!"
LOL. Oh, I'm glad we didn't get that far down the road...
DeleteI had the EXACT conversation, also inspired by the 'sexy' lin in Gagnum Style, with my Mr6. Exact. Facsimile.
ReplyDeleteYup that very same song inspired a discussion about "sexy" with Miss 6.
ReplyDeleteAs I read your post I was waiting for you to say Mr 6 told you that when he got older he might like BOYS! : )
My brother is gay so I am always really conscious of the "when you get older and you find (insert gender) attractive" statements. It's a real and constant challenge to my socially conditioned heteronormativity. Hmmm... I might write a post about that very topic...
Didn't even think about that. One bridge at a time for me Bri, one bridge at a time.
DeleteThankfully my kiddies are still too young to ask these questions. The thought petrifies me though.
ReplyDeleteOn an unrelated note - I nominated you for the Very Inspirational Blog Award because I love reading your blog and you have inspired me to start pitching and also start writing a book - http://alifeonvenus.blogspot.com.au/2013/03/very-inspiring-blogger-award.html
I never got that question from my kids, they must have learned all about sexy from their friends at school.
ReplyDeleteI am so bad at 'the hard questions'. A good response is always "Ask your Father". (joking of course)
ReplyDeleteI don't need to explain sexy as we have the Badoo around. She informed all of us that sexy means your boobs stick out.
ReplyDeleteGotta keep a very tight rein on that one... x
Excellent explanation Allison. Like Maxabella I too have my short rein at the ready for my two boys - Mr 6 and Mr 3 constantly amaze me with their 'sexy' talk, for instance on New Years Eve 2012 I overheard them in the bathroom getting ready for our family dinner celebration Mr 6 had found my hair product and was smudging it through his brothers hair explaining "you have to do this to look sexy for the ladies". And last week we saw a wedding party having their portraits taken in the park Mr 3 gasped when he saw the bride "oh mum I just love her dress" then as the bride and groom embraced he followed up with "maybe they're going to have sex". Where does he get this from? I'm blaming older brother's school influence!
ReplyDeleteGood to come across this article.. funny !
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